A New School Year

It seemed that no sooner was Christmas over than the Back To School stock appeared in the shops (and before we were back to school, they has started promoting Easter). In our household, this year is our last Back To School and it is with some relief that it is behind us, that we know who the teachers are, what the expectations are and have an idea of what is to come.

I suspect there has been a lot of breath holding over the last few weeks particularly in families with gifted children. The start of a new school year can be a stressful time not only for a gifted child, but also for their parents. Depending on how things have gone in the past, the enthusiasm level for school can vary (for both parties). The child is waiting to see if the teacher 'gets' them, the parents are waiting to see if the teacher 'gets' gifted kids......... in some cases parents are waiting to see how long the calm lasts.

Many parents know after the first day or two how the year is likely to go. Sometimes it takes a bit longer. Sometimes kids are willing it to be good so hard that it can take a little while for the cracks to appear. They try so hard to do what is expected, to follow instructions, to get on with the other kids their age and many succeed quite well while it is new and they are refreshed. Perhaps they also have to adjust to a new school or setting.

As tiredness creeps in a little, or the novelty wears off, cracks may begin to show in the facade of all being well.

Even though it is only a few weeks into the year I have had calls from a few families where they are already under pressure. One family were being asked to relocate their child to grade level after 8 school days in a new school as the teachers didnt think he could cope with the work. It can take many sensitive children a little longer than that to adapt to a new environment, new expectations and routines......... One family were already trying to help the teacher understand that apparent lack of motivation might be turned around with something more challenging. Another were looking for some strategies to help the teacher see their child's strengths (rather than just the weaknesses), something that a previous teacher had been able to see but apparently were now invisible.

Parenting gifted children is a journey. It is hard to tell what is around the next corner, or even when you will approach a corner. It can be time intensive and at times heartbreaking and at others breath taking and joyful. Developing a positive relationship with the child's teacher and being involved when and where you can, can help to smooth the (school) bumps a little, not least because perhaps you might get to see the bumps before you hit them.

Fingers crossed that the year is a good one, or at least a step in the right direction for you and for your children.